Thanks to all for the encouraging words and helpful links. I knew you’d understand.
One link I found as a result of your comments was zafu.com . I’m going to try out their recommendations this weekend! I’ll let you know what happens.
Meanwhile, I found a pair “they’ll do” jeans. $20 at Cato, size 12(!!!) and…well, they’ll do. Here’s hoping for better than “they’ll do” next week.