Friday Saturday (edited for idiocy) is Valentine’s Day. My first Valentine’s Day at a healthy weight…and still no Mr. Cammy (or almost-Mr. Cammy or Mr.-even-remotely-interested-in-Cammy) in sight. That wasn’t actually a goal of getting fit, mind you, but a just-for-me box of chocolates would’ve been nice.
Just kidding, of course. Even when I’ve been in a relationship at Valentine’s Day, it’s one of those holidays that doesn’t excite me. Kind of like Labor Day or President’s Day, only with no accompanying white sale at Target. I have friends, however, who go through serious cycles of depression around V-Day. It really bothers them that they don’t have a significant someone to shower love upon them. Really.
Well, bah-heartbug, I say! (with a straight face, even.) Congrats if you DO have a romantic kind of person in your life who will make your day extra-super-special, but what if you don’t? Will you spend the day moping? Pouting? Stuffing your face full of chocolate? Doing something else that won’t do anything at all to improve the situation and will likely only send you into a deeper sprial? (Not that I’ve ever done any of those things at any time in my past.)
If you chose any or all of the above, stop that right now. The fact of the matter is that you DO have someone who loves you. Or someone who SHOULD love you. In fact, this person has to love you before he or she can ever love anyone else.
By now you probably realize that that person is right in front of you. Well, if you’re standing in front of the mirror.
Yep, I’m talking about YOU (and ME.) Loving ourselves enables us to show love for others. For those of us who have struggled with this, we have to learn to break through all the negative clutter in our heads and start showing ourselves the loving graces of compassion, generosity, and forgiveness. What better time to start (or re-commit) than Valentine’s Day?
Here are just a few ideas for celebrating this Love Yourself Valentine’s Day:
Write yourself a love letter. Remind yourself WHY you’re so very special and love-worthy! You can put it in a pretty Valentine’s Day card, or send it to yourself via email, or you can even send it to yourself on some predetermined date in the future.
Make a list of the things that make you happy, and ask yourself what you’ve done to bring more of them into your life. Make another list of the things you’ll commit to doing now to make yourself happy.
Take time to focus on yourself on V-Day with some good old-fashioned pampering:
- Buy yourself flowers. Who says someone else has to buy them for you?
- Take a bubble bath with the works: candles, music, the really good bubbles
- Give yourself a facial and/or a manicure/pedicure
- Cook yourself a nice meal, or treat yourself to a meal out with friends
- Have a movie marathon
- Make time for exercise, especially if you’ve been too busy for it lately.
And some fun external-to-you ideas:
Plan an ‘I love myself’ party and invite friends over.
Practice kindly love all day long. Smile at strangers. Give compliments.
Celebrate love by calling the people you love to let them know how special they are to you.
Experience gratitude. Spend some time reflecting on all the people who love you now or have loved you in the past. (Don’t forget pets! They count!)
The goal is to cherish the act of loving, starting with yourself, and then spreading the joy
So, what will you do this Valentine’s Day to prove your love for YOU?
Me? I’m going to the gym! And then maybe having one wee piece of chocolate.