I'm Shining, Are YOU Shining?
It will come as no surprise to anyone that I don't know many Bible verses. I'm not opposed to the Bible; I just haven't committed much of it to memory.
I do know a few verses, though, and one in particular came to mind recently:
A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.Matthew 5:14
I remember this one because I first read it around the time a co-worker began discussing her newfound religious fervor. "D" willingness to share her joyous conversion with us knew no bounds. In fact, the only time she wasn't talking about it (and trying to convert the heathen among us) was when she was dishing gossip about someone else or sneaking off to shop on company time. When I saw first saw the verse above, I remember thinking, D, if you'd just hush and let your self-described light shine from within, you'd make your conversion much more attractive and desirable.
In losing 100 pounds, I'm afraid I may have gone the "D" way. Erasing old habits and replacing them with better ones has been exciting, especially since many of the changes were made with a little tweak here and tiny shift there. I was eager to share my joy with everyone I knew!
Maybe a tad too eager. Someone recently told me she didn't want to go to lunch with me because she didn't want me to see what she ate for lunch. (Ouch!) I assured her that I couldn't care less what she ate, but that I did care that she enjoyed it. And then to bridge the awkward gap, I told her I wouldn't go to lunch with her if she was the last person on Earth. She laughed, I laughed, and we're meeting for lunch next week.
I can't recall criticizing anybody's food choices or lack of exercise, and if I did I'm truly sorry. I'm the last person on the planet with any right to be judgmental about these topics. I never meant to come across like a religious extremist or an Amway salesman.
But maybe that's not the case. I honestly don't think I've been proselytizing too much. I dunno, maybe I'm conveniently forgetting a few dozen conversations. Something I've definitely noticed is that people volunteer what they've been eating or how they've been exercising. I never even bring it up. I ran into a co-worker last week and the first thing she said to me after hello was, "I'm still climbing the stairs!" (See this link for relevance.)
See? She brought it up! (And I'm glad she did and thrilled she's still climbing! She was reluctant to try it.)
So I'm used to friends and such offering their successes. I was bumfuzzled for a few seconds yesterday, though, when the young clerk at Office Max blurted out, with great enthusiasm, "I biked this morning!"
At first I wasn't sure he was talking to me, but there was no one else around. "Oh yeah? Where did you ride?" Brilliant conversationalist, me.
He went on to tell me the route in his neighborhood and how he chose to go up some "bad ass hills." I noticed as he talked, his eyes drifted to my chest a couple of times. Losing 100 pounds has resulted in that area not getting much attention these days, so I glanced down to make sure nothing was showing that shouldn't be.
Turns out I was wearing my "What Have You Done Today?" t-shirt, which has a bunch of forms of exercise printed on it. Biking was one of the choices. Duh. Still, he was proud and I was proud for his accomplishment. We talked about biking a few minutes more and I left.
Later yesterday, after I had walked to the gym (twice, which is a story for another day), I walked over to Subway for my post-workout snack. As I was leaving, a man said, "Great workout today!" I recognized him vaguely as having been at the gym while I was there. (I had one of those "being where my butt is" days and was totally focused on my workout.) He went on to compliment my push-ups and my attitude during my workout. I was deliciously embarrassed but thrilled, as you can imagine. We talked about workouts for a few minutes, and I walked home.
So, you see, even people I never met bring up this healthier living thing without my asking. It can't just be me over-talking it. Not all the time, anyway.
It makes me think that there might be something to this city on a hill thing. Maybe if you do the things you need to be doing and you do them with the right attitude, the satisfaction and the pleasure will shine from within you and serve as their own form of attraction.
Oooh, that reminds me of that old Sunday School song (since I got away with the Bible verse already): This little light of mine, I'm going to let it shine. Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine!
Okay, so maybe the writer intended something else, but it works here as well. Our efforts and our attitudes will make people want what we have, and maybe--just maybe--that will inspire them to find their own light!
Now all we need are some pamphlets to put under people's windshields at the supermarket and we'll be set! :)
Thus endeth today's sermon. I can't find the collection plate, but we will resume passing it next week.
Go in peace. And good health.
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19 Comments:
OK, I loved this post! Thankfully for me, all my friends/family are used to my eating & I don't care what they do. It is their choice. If they want to ask my advice, I will offer it up BUT I don't go criticizing while someone eats. Just not right.
BUT, I love your shirt by the way & how people react! I am always willing to share if people ask or volunteer a talk about their routine but even now, in the gym, I don't bother anyone, even if they are doing it wrong, unless they ask me. Had a couple bad experiences with offering up advice on bad form! :-O
But as for the catching on thing, I do like that! I always catch the young guys pulling up their sleeves & checking their arms when I come in view. I can "hear" them thinking, how does that old fart get arms like that & I don't have them! I am proud of my arms! Hard work!
Thx Cammy! See, I said something positive about myself. I can do it! ;-)
I think that you just make people want to be better, and theres nothing wrong with that. if people use your and your success as a motivator to push themselves or to never let themselves down because then when they would run into you they would have to admit they werent keeping up with the healthy habits, I think its awesome!
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You definitely are an inspiration to all that you come across. As for the people that feel that you are the health police....it is their own guilt there I believe. I have had that happen in the past when I am trying to loose weight, that is why I chose not to tell anyone this time (and it is working soooo much better). I did not want everyone checking in on me and those that feel guilt when they have something that they "shouldn't " have saying "I know I shouldn't have this but,..."....like I'm going to tell them what to eat, and I certainly don't want them tell me what I can or can't eat. I say have what you want and let me have what I want. Great post! :)
I know, I have this tendency to drone on about fitness and clean eating. I get needlessly judgemental about Poptarts. With my zeal you'd think I'd lost 50 pounds but it's only about 20 from my highest point :)
Oh C... this is beautiful... gotta love a midweek sermon :)
Thanks for the lovely sermon. Can we share that collection plate??? I think it would be healthier...
I NEVER comment on other people's food choices! I'm often tempted, especially when I know the person is working towards a goal and she hasn't eaten anything with real nutrition (i.e, something fresh and raw in days), but I refrain unless asked. We are each on our own journey and hopefully others will catch on that something good has happened to Craig and me and inquire.
And they do! My friends love it when I talk about health and nutrition and they have made many changes themselves. But since I don't demand perfection of myself, they know that I won't judge them for not being perfect either.
I honestly don't think I've been proselytizing too much.
you have been :) w/out saying a word Woman in the best way possible leading by example.
I love how this is so entirely your lifestyle and who you are the it is evident from the moment people meet you (types the Jewish woman :))
can I get an AMEN?
Great post! I, along with 2 of my best friends, have lost a combined total of 160 lbs over the last 2 years and we've made some interesting observations that are similar to those in your post. What we have discovered is that losing weight often makes people reflect their own choices and decisions (like Sunny Days was saying) and they feel the need to automatically justify their choices/decisions to us or try to avoid us because we make them feel bad. They think we are looking down on them - as if because we have gotten healthier, they should too. That's not the case at all. Of course, I want everyone to feel great, but I have never commented on what other people eat or how they exercise. I do hope that we can be an inspiration to others simply by demonstrating both the successes and struggles of trying to get healthy. What we've discovered is that often while trying to fight your own demons while losing weight, you have to fight everyone elses too!
Heh, yeah, me and the Hubs get that sometimes too (lost 185 pounds in the last 2 years together...)
I don't comment on other people's food or exercise, but I do have some friends that seem to feel the need to justify themselves to me...
Friend, "Oh, I sort of gave up on the pushups thing..." ::guilty look::.
Me, "OK?" . o O (And I care why?) I mean, really... I do what I do for ME. If YOU don't want to do it, that's peachy... You're the one who has to look in your mirror, not me.
If you're happy with yourself, GREAT! If you're not happy with yourself, CHANGE IT! In either case, I am generally happy WITH YOU as my friend.
(My advice to pushup friend was either "well, you can always start over... or if you really hate it that much, find something else to do that you LIKE.")
It's just that bright-a$$ light of yours shining Cammy!! Seriously, this is **one** of the ways you are making the world a better place.
"Holy, holy, holy...."
I totally agree with the commenters who believe the person who was reluctant to lunch with you was transferring his/her guilty conscience (about his/her eating habits) to you. But your message about letting your light shine is a good one. And's it's a message where you definitely practice what you preach. (And I'm going to memorize that Bible verse to use when the religious zealots get under my skin.)
LOL I think part of people volunteering some of that info is that they feel guilty for not doing it all the time. You may not be talking about it all the time, but when people notice the changes in your body, they may start wishing that they were doing those things and seeing the awesome results. So yeah, I agree with the others that those people's guilt is self-imposed. ;-) Preach it, sister!
Path to Health
I *try* not to say too much, but I don't always succeed, especially with the hubby. I keep trying to remind myself that I should just *be* the change I want to see and maybe, just maybe, it will make an impression on my sweetheart and help him to tweak his own habits...
I'm going to have that song stuck in my head for the next week hehe.
The same thing happens to me- people tell me ALL THE TIME what kind of healthy or unhealthy things they've been doing. And I really love hearing about it! But if it makes people feel uncomfortable (like your friend with lunch), that makes me really sad. I hope to goodness that I don't seem preachy.
I want a shirt like yours!!
I agree that people can obviously see that you've changed (100 pounds? I did not know!) and want to justify their lifestyles or behavior. Or they feel a twinge of guilt as they imagine that you are disciplined and hard working and never eat cake! I don't talk about it either, unless someone directly asks. If they tell me they shouldn't eat this, or exercise more, I just shrug my shoulders, say "whatever". On occasions where a person is telling me how impossible it is to lose weight, as they're eating doritos and coke, I may point out that their food choices aren't helping them, but otherwise, whatever. However, if we're out together, and I'm eating fruit and pb&j on ww bread, and my companion is eating fried chicken and fries, it's obvious that we're living different lifestyles, and I sometimes feel resented, and get comments, from the other person. I'm really not that much of a health nut, you just eat nothing but junk, okay? Back off.
I think you are also probably a much happier person now and your light really does shine. :)
HIDE IT UNDER A BUSHEL, NO, I'M GONNA LET SHINE, LET IT SHINE, LET IT SHINE.
Great post!!
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