Thank you all for joining in the discussion about judging or jumping to conclusions. How sad is it that I feel better about not being the only one who does this.
Monica had a good question, which I think bears pondering: “[I]s it possible to watch and not judge?”
For me, it’s entirely possible to watch or observe without passing judgment, at least in the way I’m thinking of judgment. Say I happen to notice a box of Cocoa Puffs in someone else’s grocery cart. I might think, “That’s a lot of sugar.” Or I might think, “I wonder if she knows how much sugar is in that.” Or I might think, “You are ruining your kids’ health and you don’t care.” In my mind, the first two are idle observations to pass time while I wait. The last one is a judgment since I don’t know anything about why she’s buying sugary cereal. For all I know, she’s just read an article that claims Cocoa Puffs are great lizard repellent.
I’ll never stop noticing things that people are doing. I’m infinitely fascinated by us human-types and often learn new things about myself in the watching process. And while I don’t mind playing the “I wonder why…” game, I’m increasingly uncomfortable with my tendency to decide that my answer is their truth. So that’s why I’m trying to be more mindful of doing it.
To that point, I’m sad to report that I only made it until 8:22 a.m. yesterday before making a judgment call.
On a positive note, I caught myself doing it and stopped immediately to re-phrase the thought in positive terms that related to me and not to the other person.
I’ll never be perfect at this, but my hope is that being mindful of my judgmental nature will help me radiate positive energy and show the world that I’m really a nice person. Really. Besides, I can’t afford any bad karma floating around me.
As for my friend who made the phone call that started me down this pondering path, if he calls and says he saw me turning into Waffle House yesterday, well, I’m going to have plead the Fifth.
On a side note: If you’ve ever wondered if it was possible to burn up your dinner using a crockpot, the answer is ‘Yes.’ As it turns out, 15 hours is a leetle too long to cook 3 boneless chicken breasts, especially if you leave the top to the crockpot off. ::blush:: Needless to say, mindful cooking will be my next project.
With that, I’m off to the gym. It’s possible I have an order of hash browns to work off.