More Thoughts on Judging

Thank you all for joining in the discussion about judging or jumping to conclusions. How sad is it that I feel better about not being the only one who does this. :)

Monica had a good question, which I think bears pondering: “[I]s it possible to watch and not judge?”

For me, it’s entirely possible to watch or observe without passing judgment, at least in the way I’m thinking of judgment. Say I happen to notice a box of Cocoa Puffs in someone else’s grocery cart. I might think, “That’s a lot of sugar.” Or I might think, “I wonder if she knows how much sugar is in that.” Or I might think, “You are ruining your kids’ health and you don’t care.” In my mind, the first two are idle observations to pass time while I wait. The last one is a judgment since I don’t know anything about why she’s buying sugary cereal. For all I know, she’s just read an article that claims Cocoa Puffs are great lizard repellent.

I’ll never stop noticing things that people are doing. I’m infinitely fascinated by us human-types and often learn new things about myself in the watching process. And while I don’t mind playing the “I wonder why…” game, I’m increasingly uncomfortable with my tendency to decide that my answer is their truth. So that’s why I’m trying to be more mindful of doing it.

To that point, I’m sad to report that I only made it until 8:22 a.m. yesterday before making a judgment call.
On a positive note, I caught myself doing it and stopped immediately to re-phrase the thought in positive terms that related to me and not to the other person.

I’ll never be perfect at this, but my hope is that being mindful of my judgmental nature will help me radiate positive energy and show the world that I’m really a nice person. Really. Besides, I can’t afford any bad karma floating around me.

As for my friend who made the phone call that started me down this pondering path, if he calls and says he saw me turning into Waffle House yesterday, well, I’m going to have plead the Fifth. :)

On a side note: If you’ve ever wondered if it was possible to burn up your dinner using a crockpot, the answer is ‘Yes.’ As it turns out, 15 hours is a leetle too long to cook 3 boneless chicken breasts, especially if you leave the top to the crockpot off. ::blush:: Needless to say, mindful cooking will be my next project. :)

With that, I’m off to the gym. It’s possible I have an order of hash browns to work off.

13 thoughts on “More Thoughts on Judging

  1. This is my first time to your blog and I am so inspired by your weight loss and your life style changes. I read the post about judging and I am afraid I am guilty of looking in other peoples grocery carts but I don’t have that I am better than thou attitude. Instead I wonder what they would do if they knew better. I didn’t use to know better but now I do.

    I look forward to reading more interesting posts on your blog.

  2. I just read your judging post. I am sooooo guilty of this these days! I try not to , but it is so hard. I look in grocery carts or look at what people order and judge sometimes. Mostly, when I see overweight people I think to myself about how they can lose the weight, too! I don’t think this in a negative way,though. It’s more like I want to run up to them and say, “You can lose the weight. I am! You can do it!”.

    Of course, I would never do this and I know that everyone who does it does it in there own time and their own way. Besides, how do I not know that they aren’t in the process of doing it.

    I am also self-conscious sometimes about what I order when I am out with friends. I wonder if they are judging me for ordering a buffalo chicken sandwich with sweet sauce and eating some of my kids’ chips. They may be. Obviously, your friend was. But I think he was a good friend to call you on it, eventhough the judgment was wrong.

    Lastly, don’t judge me too harshly. I buy cocoa puffs for my kids sometimes and occasionally they have them for dinner! I know, I know. You don’t have to say anything. I am my own worst judge when it comes to this. I have really cut down on this. It is just so hard to change everyone in the household’s habits! Also my kids are not overweight and are very active. :)

  3. I like that Cammy.. being mindful about it like we are about eating. I try not to judge.. I do try but I am so bad sometimes! I catch myself though!

  4. I think you can watch and observe without judging. I’ve burned up chili in the crockpot before. I accidentally set it on high and left it all day while we went on a family excursion. Came back and it wasn’t a good smell. VERY BAD.

  5. Good for you honey- takes a strong confident person to hang up their robe:)
    and ooo man i miss waffle house!! U.S only:(
    chocolate chip waffles and those flat round sausages.. Le sigh

  6. I’m guilty of judging like that. Throw the book at me, but don’t make it a trashy novel because I don’t want to be judged!

    I’m learning better “mind manners” from volunteering at the Food Pantry. So many people really do not know better. It has really opened my eyes to that.

  7. @ JackSh*t: LOLOLOLOL

    I heart me some good people watching. Usually don’t judge, just enjoy the diversity of it all. It’s so damn fascinating to me. Thanks for making some braincells click together. Great post!
    .-= results not typical girl

  8. I HAVE wondered about how many hours is tooooo many for crockpots. Thanks for that report.

    More importantly, I so admire your determination to be mindful about judgments. Good examples to show the difference between judgments and observations! I really like this post, Cammy, and am inspired to check my own judgment rate as well. Yay!
    .-= Peacefulbird´s last blog ..World Prayers =-.

  9. i like that you are so conscious of what you are doing… i try to do the same thing only with different habits. for instance, i notice i interrupt people less if i work on listening more. i hate being interrupted, and i cringe when i catch myself doing it! maybe that’s why i blog, no one can interrupt me 😉

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