Today’s daily email from my BFF Martha Beck contained this gem:
Right now, say it out loud: “I’m so proud of myself.” The rush of strength
and expansiveness that comes from declaring this honestly is the antidote
to paralysis and the beginning of wonderful adventures, and each time you
choose that, instead of shame, you really should be proud.”
Far be it from me to boss anybody around, but you should try this.
Every day–every hour–we do something that’s positive and worth being proud of, yet all too often we glom onto the one (or possibly three) thing(s) we did that didn’t go as we had hoped or planned. Those itsy bits become our focus and for many of us, become the larger part of our self-definition. And that’s just plain sad. And wrong. Haven’t you heard? We’re great people!
So let’s get this turned around.
Obviously I’m proud to be maintaining my weight loss, despite family reunions and cupcakes that attack without warning.
I’m proud that I made my Mama proud by not jumping across the table and strangling one of my distant cousins at the family reunion, even if she did deserve it for being such a sanctimonious twit. My cousin, that is, not my mother. My mother is a very nice person and if you thought otherwise, you take it back right NOW!
Speaking of the reunion, I’m proud that my cake balls were so well received. As you know, I’m not much of a cook and I don’t often bring the dish everyone wants the recipe for.
I’m proud that I continue to gently push myself in the gym. I’m currently working on chin-ups by using the assisted chin up machine, and I’m proud that I’ve dipped below the 100-lb mark. The idea with these is that you continue to lower the weight until you don’t need any assistance at all. Before you know it, I’ll be proud for doing an unassisted chin-up. (Just one, that’s all I ask.)
I’m proud to have pushed past my writing “issues” to start a new short story. It’s been awhile and I missed it. But not enough to, you know, do it. Until now, that is.
Well, I do go on. Sadly (or gladly, I guess), I could keep going on. Martha Beck is right: this little exercise creates a rush of strength and energy. I feel a delicious cycle coming on. (So much better than those vicious cycles I used to encounter.) I’ve got a whole day ahead of me in which to create proud moments. I should get busy with it!
But before I go, and you knew this was coming (c’mon, I gave it away in the title!):
What are YOU proud of?
Be bold! Be generous! You’ve done a LOT to be proud of! Now’s your time to shout it to the rafters!
Or just say it out loud to yourself. After all, it’s most important that YOU get the message.