It’s not enough that the holidays are filled with too much food, too many obligations, and too much…stuff. For many of us, there’s also a whole bunch of emotional baggage taking up space and time, robbing us of the the joys of the season, and possibly contributing to derailments from our healthier living goals.
I thought I was doing pretty good at letting things go until I read Are You an Emotional Packrat? over on Dumb Little Man. Author Sherri Kruger suggests we consider these factors to determine if we might be storing up some trouble:
1. You constantly replay past confrontations, conversations and situations in your head.
2. You find yourself saying, “I wish I had said ______________.” Or, “I should have done _________.”
3. You get anxious when you think of certain people or get stressed at the thought of running into someone in an otherwise completely nonthreatening situation.
4. You find yourself worrying about what the other people are thinking of you.
Ouch! I hate when things hit me right between the eyes like that, and number 4 was especially zingy.
So, okay, I have some work to do. While I’m mostly comfortable with myself, my mother’s oft-used warning from my younger years sometimes creeps into my thoughts and takes over: “People will think you’re…”
Mom meant well, and it’s good to consider the image one puts forth in any given situation. What other people think about how I look, feel, work, dress, etc., shouldn’t get in the way of my dreams and goals. More specifically, what I think other people think shouldn’t get in my way. Because as the referenced article says:
You’d worry less about what people thought of you if you knew how little they did.
I’m going to remind myself of this throughout the holidays..and whenever else it’s necessary.
I tried to keep this post short, in hopes that it would leave you time to check out the full article. Well worth reading and pondering.
Do holidays bring out the emotional clutter in your life? Do you think that contributes to over-indulging?