WoW, as in Words of Wisdom. Someone else’s words, of course. I don’t do wise on Mondays.
We create what we anticipate.
That woman sure is wise. She loses me sometimes on the Buddhist stuff, but in this case, I’m right there with her.
I’ve said it before, but it’s always worth a repeat, especially on a Monday, that the biggest contributor to my weight loss was that I anticipated success. (This was, of course, after I redefined my previously held measures of success.) I didn’t hope for success or wish for it; I anticipated it. In my mind’s eye, I could see myself taking the right actions, making better choices, building a healthier lifestyle. I saw myself feeling stronger, more energetic, less anxious. I craved that life, and that vivid anticipation fueled my ability to create that very life for myself.
Even now, after reaching maintenance phase, I still anticipate success. Not perfection. Success. When snacks attack (more on that tomorrow), I believe I can work through it. I eagerly anticipate successfully maneuvering through the holidays, knowing that if the scale should inch upward, I will correct my course and take care of it. I will be successful because I expect it. Crave it. Anticipate it.
Here’s a small example: I was dreading going to the grocery store this morning, because I just didn’t want to deal with all that selecting and label reading and calculating. Balancing nutrition with an unemployed person’s budget makes the process a bit time-consuming and frazzling. Then I remembered Martha Beck’s quote and was reminded that if I anticipated a long, drawn-out ordeal, I would surely create it for myself.
So outside the store, I took a moment or two to build the expectation of a smooth and easy process, one without drama or stress or lengthy deliberations.
And I got it!
I was Zen-Cammy, floating through the store, making wise decisions and not fretting when the occasional obstacle presented itself. The whole shopping trip took about 45 minutes, door to door, and instead of feeling tired after the experience, I’m energized. Success has a way of doing that to a person.
Qualms and self-doubt are a natural part of living (at least, to me they are), but I’ve learned that spending more time visualizing, or anticipating, a positive result enables me to create (and execute) the process of achieving it.
My question to you is this: Are you spending too much time and energy anticipating struggles? Would it help you to spend more energy to anticipate success?
Wishing you all a great week!