It’s All About Me

It’s time again for my favorite week of the year–my birthday week!

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I’m looking forward to a fun-filled week that will, no doubt, be caloric. At last count, I had 2 lunches and 2 dinners scheduled for celebration.

And some of those Facebook “likes” are paying off: Panera sent me a gift coupon for a free sweet treat (which doesn’t expire until October, thank goodness!), TCBY treated me to a small fro-yo last week, Yo-lo is treating me to another fro-yo (before the end of the month), and Ace Hardware sent me a $5 gift card. (And yes, I could use my Ace Hardware card for food: they have candy at the checkout! LOL But I’ll probably spend it on something inedible.) As a big wrap-up, I’ll be heading out on a road trip at the end of the week, for which I might be making cake joys.

Whew! Good thing I’ve worked off 20 donuts! I should try for another 10 this week

Some would resent the intrusion of so many food-centric entries in a week, but I welcome it. In part, because it’s celebratory, but more that it’s a genuine display of affection from people close to me. Cooking for someone or treating them to a meal out is one way we show we care. (Letting the honoree choose the restaurant or menu is another, and for that I’m truly grateful to my friends and family!)

Besides, as I learned rather belatedly in this life, my commitment to healthier eating isn’t about the various hosts and hostesses or calorie counts on menus or manufacturers’ ingredient lists; it’s about ME! It’s what I choose to order or accept on my plate. It doesn’t matter what other people order or pile on their plates; all I have to concern myself with is what I do! It’s always about ME!

That may not seem like much of a revelation to many of you, but it was a hugely empowering bit of knowledge for me. (Seriously, I feel even stronger and more in control just typing it.) For years, I’d partially blamed “food-pushers” and other saboteurs when I fell off the diet bus. It wasn’t all my fault, not when the snack room was conveniently located right next to my office. (Never mind that I was the one who chose the location and was responsible for stocking it, and forget that there were fruits and nuts from which to choose even if I was opting for the Nutter Butters.) It was Not.ALL.My.Fault.

Obviously, there was some part of me that knew who was in charge of me and fortunately, she fought her way to the forefront. She even channeled her inner Johnnie Cochran and came up with a catchy slogan:

If it is to be, it is up to me!**

Okay, so maybe there’s a reason he was rich and famous and I’m not, but as a personal mantra, it worked for me. And the more I said it, the more I believed it and, more importantly, acted on it. So now, when Memaw not-so-subtly hints that I should choose the catfish restaurant for my birthday lunch, I can go and enjoy it in good spirits, knowing that I’m in charge of what I order and eat. (Admittedly, it helps that they have awesome green beans and coleslaw! :) )

So that’s how I’m approaching this week: celebrating ALL of me, but really appreciating the part that feels secure in my power! And also planning to work in extra exercise whenever the schedule allows! LOL

And you? Can you embrace that it’s really all about YOU? (Except when it’s all about ME!)

** I just googled “my” mantra and learned that I didn’t originate it. Someone named William H. Johnsen did. Or Chumbawumba. I can’t tell. But I’ll bet none of them thought of my other favorite mantra from back then:

If I dwell, I will swell.

But dwelling is a topic for another day!

18 thoughts on “It’s All About Me

  1. I need to try that freebie facebook thing! So…. my husband figured out how to get wifi in the car using his cell phone. Woo hoo… I can clear out my reader while the miles pass behind me:)

  2. Happy BD Week! This should be all about you! (But since I’m commenting, I’ll just add that we have Birthday Month in our home ’cause our birth dates are exactly one month apart.)

  3. This is a great philosophy.
    I’m so glad you will enjoy yourself. I absolutely look forward to going to as many lunches and dinners as I want. There is always a good choice on almost every menu.

  4. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I think it’s very important (and healthy) to do what you like on occasion. If you want to go out to dinner several times in a week, and drink libations, and have cake, go for it! I think planning it into your schedule is wonderful. Everyone needs a release!

  5. Isn’t it wonderful to have so many people care about and want to share your birthday?!!! If you were closer, I would definitely have booked you for lunch too!

    I can’t agree more…it is ME! Me, me, me! No one but me…isn’t it great when we realize we are the ones in charge??? So freeing!

  6. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! It should be ALL about YOU! Even when it is ALL about ME! :)
    You really made me think about the statement “really appreciating the part that feels secure in my power”. I think I am just entering that phase. Not all the way there- but closer than ever. I had never thought about it like that before. It makes total sense. Just like Dorothy always had the power to go home- I always had the power to choose what went in my mouth!!! :)
    Thank you for helping me think about it this way- it really put some things into perspective for me!

  7. If I dwell, I will swell–LOLOLOLOL. Oh dear, it seems I’ve been dwelling a bit too much lately…

    I haven’t ever had a problem knowing it was all about me. But me STILL has the tendency to make less than stellar choices a few times too often.

    I want to be you when I grow up.

  8. Oops. Too busy thinking about me that I forgot to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Sounds like you have a great week planned.

  9. That’s some mantra – I like it. And I think it’s wonderful when people finally realize that this life is all about them. We go through it with others, but in the end, it’s our life… we come into it alone and go out alone. We, alone, are responsible for our lives.

    Hope your week is all you want it to be. :)

  10. YAHOO for the bday week! You go Cammy & love this empowering post that many can learn from! It took me a few years to learn this too but I did & I DO celebrate my bday too! :-) It is about knowing yourself & the choices one makes will not hurt you if you just get back to it after… you have just the best attitude! LOVE IT!

    ENJOY ENJOY ENJOY – I know you will! It is about YOU! Have a great week & trip if you don’t write us before then.

  11. You share a birthday with one of my dearest friends. Good people!

    Have fun, enjoy every moment and every bite! And all the best for the year ahead.

  12. Wishing you a very Happy Birthday week. It should always be ALL about YOU. We tend to want to use other people as am excuse but we always hold the power. Glad you use your power for good. Enjoy every minute and every morsel of every celebration. Wishing your travels would take you to Boston one of these days. I’ll be here to celebrate with you if and when you do. Party on Birthday Girl!

  13. Well, Happy Happy Birthday Cammy (!!!!!!!!!) Those aren’t exclamation points – they are upside down candles for your cake :) Sorry, it’s the best I could do on such short notice. Best Wishes!

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