Our AIM post for this month focuses on a topic near and dear to every weight-conscious person’s heart: support. Heck, support is important no matter what our goals!
I’ve been fortunate in most things to have immediate support for my goal of the moment, whatever that might be. This was especially true in losing the weight. For the most part, friends and family were encouraging and that helped keep my motivation level high.
Sometimes my definition of support and certain other people’s definitions were different. They meant well, I know that, but repeatedly calling me ‘Slim’ when I was still 90 pounds overweight, or asking, “Can you have that?” when I was eating something, weren’t really helpful for me. For other people (present company included), that might be just the kind of support you want.
But like I said, they meant well, and I’m honored that they cared enough to offer what they thought would be helpful. Besides, they did help in many other ways. I’m lucky to have had so many people in my corner. Not everyone has that, and I’m very grateful that I did.
So fast forward a few years. I’ve been in maintenance mode for almost five years, and I’ve learned that support is different on this side of the fence. Most of the players are the same, but the only one thinking about my weight is ME (and even I don’t think about it all that much.) Other than an occasional, “I see you’re still keeping the weight off,” from someone I haven’t seen in a while, no one mentions weight at all. It’s not new or fresh anymore. People who knew me before weight loss have gotten used to the new me, and I’ve (mostly) settled happily into maintenance.
This is all okay–great, even–96.4% of the time, but then there are those days, the random days when I feel like I’m out here alone on a wire with a cracked balancing pole. And it’s windy.
I’m not alone, of course. The support is there, but it’s in the background. I’ll have to ask for it if I feel I need it.
Besides the local support I could get by picking up the phone, I’ve got you guys. You help me regain my balance, even on the stormiest of days, and I don’t thank you nearly enough. I do appreciate your comments and your support–always!
Are you getting the support you need? For you long-termers, have you noticed changes in support over time?
Here’s a link to a post from earlier this year on asking for help.
AIM: Adventures in Maintenance is Lynn, Lori, Debby, Shelley, and Cammy, former weight-loss bloggers who now write about life in maintenance. We formed AIM to work together to turn up the volume on the issues facing people in weight maintenance. We publish a post on the same topic on the first Monday of each month. Let us know if there is a topic you’d like us to address!